But don't go into Mr. McGregor's garden.
 

-- Beatrix Potter
 


 

Since we are members of a family, we are not free to do anything we like. We may not be able to go as far from home as we would like. We may have to get up earlier in the morning than we would like. We may have only limited use of the car.

Families set up limits in order to maintain order and happiness. If each of us demanded something different for supper each night, the situation would be unmanageable. 

Limits also keep us safe. When Peter Rabbit was told not to go into Mr. McGregor's garden, it was for his own good. 

Limits and restrictions are a form of love and protection, and we all have them. 

When we bump up against one of these limits, we can be assured they serve to point us in another direction, one with freedoms of its own which we may never have explored without being forced to.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Don't do nothing you can't share,
 
and be prepared to discuss everything that you do.
 


 -- Martin Shepard, M. D.
 
 

 

Secrets diminish self-respect; they foster paranoia, and they make it impossible to have honest and open communication.

Self-disclosure cleanses us; but an even greater benefit is that a commitment to it triggers careful forethought, and a needless or perhaps hurtful action can be avoided.

It takes only a moment to reflect on the possible ramifications of an intended action.

And that moment's reflection can save us from apologies, shame, and embarrassment.

Being committed and prepared to inform others of all that we are nurtures the growth of our better selves.

No greater encouragement for self-improvement exists than the decision to share absolutely all.

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© 1991 Hazelden Foundation from the books Today's Gift and The Promise of a New Day


 

01/28/2004


 

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