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Many of us have the habit of taking a negative outlook on whatever comes
along. We don't believe things will work out for us; we don't think we
will have a good day; we can't accept our friends' warm feelings.
To follow this gloomy path is a
strange distortion of faith -- it is faith in the negative. Any
forecast, whether hopeful or pessimistic, is a step into the unknown. So
why do we choose the dark one?
We get a payoff for our pessimism
which keeps us hooked. It creates misery, but serves our demand for
control.
There is more risk in being
open to something positive because we cannot force positive things to
occur.
We can only be open to them and
believe in the possibility.
But when we predict the negative
and expect only bad things, we squelch many good things or overlook
them. Then we say, "I knew it would be this way," and in our misery we
satisfy our self-centered craving to be in charge.
When we surrender our need to be
in control, we are more open and welcoming of the good things that come
our way.
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