Ocean of Stars

 

 

The person who is always having feelings hurt is about as pleasant a companion as a pebble in a shoe.
 

-- Elbert Hubbard

 

 


 

 
 
 
 
Are we overly sensitive or afraid of personal criticism for fear our feelings will be hurt?
 
 Sometimes it may seem like no one can say anything to us without us feeling hurt, shameful, guilt-ridden, or rejected.
 
We may find ourselves saying we’re sorry so many times in one day that we end up believing we are, indeed, very sorry people.
 
 Our friends and relatives care about us and want to see us healthier, happier people.
 
Because of this, they may give us criticism. This criticism is meant to be helpful, not hurtful.
 
If we feel attacked by the criticisms of others or always seem to have our feelings hurt, it’s because we allow it.
 
 No one can make us feel any way unless we let it happen.
 
Although we may have been brought up with criticism and been told we were no good, the only person today who can make us feel worthless is ourselves.
 
We are as good as we’ll allow ourselves to be.
 
 

 

 


 

 

 

 

 

 


The most important thing in life is not to capitalize on your gains. Any fool can do that. The really important thing is to profit from your losses.

 

-- William Bolitho

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
It is easy to see the profit in what we gain, but it is not so easy to see the profit in what we lose. Projects that take shape and collections that expand show the gains we have made.
 
But how can we see profits from the end of a relationship, the loss of a job, or the estrangement from family?

Each loss represents a step we need to take toward maturity and growth. Throughout our lifetimes we will walk up many steps.
 
Sometimes it may seem like we have a never-ending stairway in front of us. Our gains are the level parts of each stair, but the real progress is made when we climb the stairs of our losses.

Although we may feel as though we have nothing when we go through a loss, what we do have is the experience of the loss. We learn to deal with a different lesson.
 
 Our profits from a loss may not show up immediately, but we will discover the rich rewards as we learn to accept life on its terms -- not on ours.
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

They got scared when they started feeling good, just because it was so unfamiliar. Like chronic prisoners facing release from their cells.

 

-- Lisa Alther

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
The evening news usually begins with doom-and-gloom stories and perhaps ends with one positive, uplifting item. If we were to give the evening news of today, what would it consist of?
 
Stories of disappointment, anger, resentment, and misunderstandings; or
recollections of giving, laughter, closeness, success, and achievement?

It’s scary to focus only on the good things that happen. Many times we’re afraid to feel good because we don’t trust the feeling to last long.
 
Perhaps we’re very uncomfortable with good feelings because they’re so unfamiliar. Yet that unfamiliarity can change, over time, until we grow accustomed to the good.

Accepting good feelings is like meeting someone we really want to know better.
 
 At first we may feel scared or shy. But in time, we feel more at ease and relaxed as we spend more time together and share different things. Feeling good can be a friend that will grow more important to us every day.
 
 
 
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 © 1992 Hazelden Foundation from the book Night Light
 
 
09/09/2012

 

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