The question is laid out ...

  ... for each of us to ask:
 

 


 
 

Whether to hold on or to drop the mask.

-- Martha Boesing

Do you ever feel you are wearing a mask? It's a strange, uncomfortable feeling. We mistrust our own face; we don't even know what it looks like, because we put on the mask so young.

But sooner or later we must drop it and face our reflection.

Perhaps the mask is silent, and behind it we feel like screaming. Perhaps the mask is festive, and our own eyes weep.

The mask chafes and confines us, but it gives protection, too.

We're naked without it; we have nowhere to hide.

To summon the courage to drop the mask, we must believe in ourselves enough to trust our naked vulnerability.

We may take courage in knowing that everyone is vulnerable and afraid.

By wearing our own faces proudly, we show that it's possible.

Soon, masks will be dropping all around.

 

 

 

 
     
 
 
 
 
 
Down in a green and shady bed
 
A modest violet grew 
 
Its stalk was bent, it hung its head,
 
As if to hide from view.
 
-- Jane Taylor
 
 
 
 
 
Shyness can be painful. Those of us who are shy do not choose to be this way. 

There are no quick and easy solutions to shyness, but it isn't the worst thing that could happen to us.

And there are some things we can do about it.

We can be willing to talk about it with someone we trust.

We can exercise to build strength and self-confidence, and we can avoid dwelling on the problem.

Most of all, we should not let shyness keep us from doing things.

We may be a little uncomfortable, but that doesn't have to stop us from doing the task at hand to the best of our ability. 

We can be assured that the ability to succeed is within us, and keep in mind that, if we offer love to those around us, their answering love will help us overcome our shyness.

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© 1991 Hazelden Foundation from the books The Promise of a New Day and Today's Gift

 

11/21/2008

 

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