| Most of us struggle at times
with a sense of worthlessness.
Sometimes this sense of being
good for nothing leads us to self-destructive behavior;
sometimes it is accompanied by
self-pity.
At such times, other people’s
lives appear infinitely attractive, and we may fancy that there are
easy solutions to our problems.
“If only I had two nice children,
an adoring spouse, and a house in the suburbs!” we may think, or “Oh,
to be single and on my own in the big city!”
The truth is, and we know it when
we’re not in a funk, that our solutions, like our problems, lie within
us.
We all tend to blame other people
and circumstances for our own shortcomings. That’s human. But we let go
of blaming if we want to grow.
We have the power to transform
every situation.
If we feel trapped by a job that
seems dull or a relationship that seems lifeless, we can redefine our
sense of the trap.
What do we want? What prevents
our going after it? What opportunities have we overlooked?
If we’re frightened by a prospect
that seems dangerous, we can turn it into a challenge, and at the same
time plan realistically how to protect ourselves.
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