He has the right to criticize
 
who has the heart to help.
 
-- Abraham Lincoln
 
 

 

Our negative judgments of others very frequently inform us of our own shortcomings.

In other words, what we dislike in others are often those things we hate about ourselves.

Much better than criticizing another's abhorrent behavior is a decision to look inwardly at our own collection of traits and attitudes.

 Our desire to criticize, to pass judgment, offers an excellent mirror of who we truly are.

And the image we see reflected can guide our movements toward becoming healthier, happy individuals.

We can feel a bit of gladness for what our negative reactions are able to teach us -- but we must be willing to learn from them.

How exciting to contemplate that every hateful moment actually is offering us a positive opportunity for change.

It's human to find fault, and we shouldn't be overcome with shame.

However, we hinder our own personal growth every time we quickly criticize another rather than rejoicing that we've been given an additional opportunity to move closer to the person we're being called to become. 

 

 

 

 

 


 
 

 

 

Creativity is so delicate a flower that praise

tends to make it bloom, while discouragement

often nips it in the bud.
 

 -- Alex Osborn
 
 

 

 

A garden of flowers blooming is a beautiful sight to see.

Through the green leaves surrounding a tulip we see hints of yellow or pink or red.

Each day the flowers greet us with their radiant color.

Yet, a sudden frost would wilt and fade the flowers.

Each time we create something new with our talents we are like a young flower opening.

Whether we draw or write or sew or play a musical instrument, all creativity has this in common.

Appreciation from those around us is like sunshine for the flowers.

 Harsh criticism, however, is like the cold air -- it wilts and deadens our desire to create. 

We all need warm encouragement for our endeavors, and we can give as well as receive it.

In this way, creativity can bloom in our homes and our friendships, bringing a garden full of color and delight into our lives.

 

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© 1991 Hazelden Foundation from the books The Promise of a New Day and Today's Gift
 

02/28/2009

 

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